Robert Ohotto's book Transforming Fate into Destiny arrived on my doorstep at just the right time in winter of 2007. I left a company as Director of Internal Audit when I found that that the company was backdating and spring loading stock options grants. I was the one who was responsible for the initial review. I found so many issues that I recommended a special investigation. A third party law firm came in and did their own investigation and found what I found and more. The management team was in no way happy with my findings or my recommendation and made it extremely uncomfortable for me to stay. I gave my two weeks notice without having another job lined up. Not easy for a single girl with a mortgage to pay. I just couldn't hang out in this rotten, unethical energy environment for one day longer.
Whistle Blowers are about the most unpopular people on earth. The Senior Management team you work for doesn't like you because you found their dirty laundry and a new management team doesn't like you because they're afraid that you'll find theirs. Courage and bravery for doing the right thing are not frequently rewarded in corporate America. For me, I must follow what my spirit tells me is the right thing to do. I can't live any other way even if I have to take a financial hit on occasion.
This wasn't the first time I found evidence of fraud in a company. When I started this position, I was hoping that I wouldn't have to deal with individuals that are part of a management team or board of directors who had the audacity to commit fraud in a public company environment. I spoke with Robert Ohotto in 2007, and he told me that finding these issues is my fate and teaching others about being ethical in corporate America is part of the package-I believe he said I had a warrior archetype. That seems about right. I prefer the Peaceful Warrior archetype.
Transforming Fate into Destiny
Robert's book was definitely helpful to me in taking a look at where I've been and where I'm going. In chapter one, Robert talks about the Soul's two agreements-your Cosmic contract. He discusses the difference between Fate and Destiny. He says that, "Through your soul's agreement with Destiny, you must transform your Fate into something more life affirming, thus leaving this world a better place. Destiny is your capacity to live out the threads of your Fate in a unique way that only you can do, while having a positive vibrational impact on the world's energy."
Chapter two discusses Acceptance and Authentic Choice where we need to ask ourselves if we can accept where we are now and take a look at what we really value in life. Robert says, "...every choice asks us to confront what we truly value. What we choose will always point toward what we hold dear in our hearts, no matter what we say our philosophies are. Values define how we live and what we choose." I might reverse that sentence and say that how we live and what we choose define are real values.
I love when he says, "That said, how do we form our values? Are they even truly our own, or are they handed down by our culture or parents and then unconsciously adopted? If we make choices based on what others hold dear, things that don't resonate with our soul's integrity, just how free are we?" Something to seriously think about if you're not happy with the choices you've made.
What is the Dark Night of the Soul (Ego)?
I particularly liked Chapter 12 where Robert talks about the Dark Night of the Ego or as some call it, the Dark Night of the Soul. I think of the Dark Night of the Soul as that gut wrenching, crying and screaming at the Gods at 3 AM moments of life-when you have no idea why bad things happen to good people like you and you have no idea what to do next to make things better.
Robert explains the Dark Night of the Ego as the period "In Between or Liminality." Robert tells us that, "We need these periods of being 'in between.' That's essentially what a Dark Night of the Ego is: a space in between two identities, a period in which our ego waits to be given new soul coordinates. We must understand that liminity is essential to the revitalization of life and the transformation of Fate into Destiny." He goes on to say that, "...our first instinct whenever any profound change arrives-especially one that will reshape our lives-is to try to keep things the same...This is when we must enter into the space between identities in order to source a fresh solution. If we're going to endure, we must animate our interior life and engage in a dialogue with our soul, allow for something new to be born...we must embrace the fact that this dark state of chaos is the genesis of all things new."
One of the Dark Nights of My Soul
I know the Dark Night of the Soul (Ego) all too well. I was working as a Controller for a high tech start up in 2001. After 9/11, business came to a screeching halt. I was laid off on a second round of lay offs during a very bad time in the economy. As a single woman with a mortgage, it didn't take long to experience the Dark Night of the Soul. On the day of the lay off as I was leaving the office, I heard a voice inside me say, "It's always darkest before the dawn." I wasn't buying it in that moment.
When my unemployment was about to run out (literally my last check), I got a call from a headhunter in Dallas asking me if I wanted to be the Director of Internal Audit for a public company in Dallas (I was living in New Hampshire). I had never been a Director of Internal Audit but I thought, "Anyone can figure out a new position if they put their mind to it." I had been a CPA for a big 4 public accounting firm. I had been a Controller for a company but never Director of Internal Audit-a completely different type of role for me. I had nothing to lose and the money was running out, so I said I would take the interview. I flew down to Dallas praying that I wouldn't have to relocate there, but I resigned myself to follow the flow of events wherever they wanted to take me.
Within a few days of the interview, I was not only offered the position, but the CFO let me work from my home office since I would be traveling around the world. He also ended up to be one of the best CFOs I've ever worked with. This position allowed me the freedom to plan my own schedule, and I was able to travel to places I had only dreamed of, such as Paris, Brussels, Zurich, Geneva, Johanesburg and Venice--all paid for by the company for business.
It was always my ultimate dream to go to Venice some day. For years, I had photos of Venice in my home. The Dark Night of My Soul/Ego decided to bring me to Venice in a big way. Over the course of a year, I spent quite a bit of time with a business unit in Treviso, which is outside of Venice. I got to know and love the people there. I was able to take the train to the Grand Canal during the weekend for fun. I was even able to attend the Christmas party of our subsidiary company in Venice. There was an eight course Christmas dinner party held at a beautiful family owned restaurant which was part of a vineyard. I got to taste the most fabulous wines with every course and met people from all over Italy. What I learned is that dawn does come after the darkest of nights and it can bring the brightest of light to the Soul. It can transform the fate of a lay off into the destiny of positive career changing job and a trip to a location of your dreams.
If I never experienced the Fate of a lay off, who knows if I would have ever seen Venice in my lifetime let alone get to know the people there personally. I would have never met the older man at Hotel Cannon D'Oro in Conegliano, Italy who would call me at 10 PM to come down to the lobby to share a glass of Prosecco and talk about world politics. I would have never met the man at the Vivarini glass shop in Murano who took me on a personal tour of the most spectacular glass studio in the world. I may never have taken a trip to Paris and ride on the Seine River or go to the top of the Eiffel Tower. I may never have stayed at the Farm Inn outside of Johannesburg which included chickens and roosters outside my hotel room door at no extra charge. In retrospect, it was the birth of the global, creative part of my soul that needed to expand its boundaries. Birth is sometimes an ugly and painful process.
It's always darkest before the dawn, and I live to tell you that the dawn can be on the Grand Canal or the Seine River in Paris. Where in the world will your Dark Night of the Soul/Ego take you next? Instead of thinking about the worst that can happen, consider that it could be the best that can happen. Read Robert Ohotto's book Transforming Fate into Destiny to get some perspective on where you're heading next on your life's journey.
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